Follow Your Heart To Get Your Ex Back

By Anne McKay


Making the decision to get your ex back can be a complicated one. Family and friends might want to advise you to move on and find someone new. Counselors might even give you the same advise. Of course, your heart is telling you to do something completely different.

Your decision to wait things out or to try to get back together with your ex is your decision to make. You don't have to have anyone else's approval or even listen to anyone that might tell you that you're making a mistake. Often by following our heart, our dreams become reality and the dream of being with the one that you love isn't such an outlandish dream, is it?

You need to be sure of yourself again before you move forward with your plan to win her over or your body language and tone of voice is going to give away your doubts and turn her off. Having self-confidence and being self-assured is a big part of attracting your girlfriend back. But what can you do to eliminate the doubts and fears? What can you do when you become jealous or feel like quitting?

On the other hand, if you want to get back together with him because you want to be sure that he loves only you and is with only you in a relationship then we're talking about something completely different. Love is also involved in such a relationship but loving someone doesn't mean that they have to be with you.

Sometimes by simply loving someone we can actually attract them back into our life in a way that no amount of convincing or talking ever could. By just loving your ex boyfriend you can have peace about your feelings because they don't require any validation or reciprocation. By loving your boyfriend in your heart and wanting the best for him, even if that means him not being with you for a period of time because your emotions and desires to posess him scared him away, can bring him back. By backing off and just loving him you can bring him back.

Nourish your dream and make sure that you spend some time each day thinking about how you want things to be in spite of the current situation is important. Meditating, visualizing and dreaming about the exact scenarios that you want to take place is helpful. Be positive and optimistic about your chances of getting back together. Where will you go once your ex comes back? How will it feel to experience that first kiss? What will the holidays be like?

Try these exercises for a week or two and see if you notice any changes in your boyfriend. In addition, spend some time thinking about loving him selflessly. Try to love him without thinking about yourself or your needs and see if there is a change in you. You very well might lose the anxiety and stress and depression often associated with a breakup and you might find that he starts showing you a little more attention.




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