Cultivating Patience When You Are Still In Love With Your Ex

By Jan Olson


Wanting to regain the love of someone that you feel very strongly for is an honorable goal. Wanting to love and be loved is a human need, after all. None of us wants to spend our life alone and only a few times in your life do you meet someone that you truly connect with.

This might sound like a stupid questions but are you sure that you really love your ex boyfriend? Do you love him or do you just want to get him back? Find out the truth before you move forward with your plans to win him over.

You are sure that you are still in love with your ex boyfriend. You want him back in your life every day. You want to talk to him when good things happen in your life and when bad things happen but do you truly love him?

Instead, remember the fact that your ex was in love with you not too long ago. These feelings and emotions don't just go away. Deep down inside there is a piece of her heart that still beats for you. She might not be in love with how things were going in your relationship but she loved you and she does still love you.

While you might wish that your ex would come back to you immediately, it rarely happens as quickly as we might like. Have you noticed that the harder we push and the more we concentrate on winning back the love of someone dear to us, the further they drift from us. The more desperate we are to win back the affections of the one person we love, the more they reject us. This is why you must be patient. You must understand that it might take a little bit of time for the dust to settle from your breakup and for the healing to begin. If you are constantly asking your ex to come back to you, the answer will always be no.

Sometimes by simply loving someone we can actually attract them back into our life in a way that no amount of convincing or talking ever could. By just loving your ex boyfriend you can have peace about your feelings because they don't require any validation or reciprocation. By loving your boyfriend in your heart and wanting the best for him, even if that means him not being with you for a period of time because your emotions and desires to posess him scared him away, can bring him back. By backing off and just loving him you can bring him back.

Be sure in your heart that you are worthy of the love that you desire. Feel it in every part of your being. You deserve to be loved by that one special person. It's natural. If you truly love your ex then you will be patient and understanding. You can put your own needs aside and take advantage of this time alone to work on yourself. Spend some time thinking about things from your ex's point of view. How would you feel if you needed some space and time to figure things out in your relationship but your partner was being selfish and kept on pressuring you? Give your ex all the space and time they need and then surprise them when they do check to see how you've been doing.

Try these exercises for a week or two and see if you notice any changes in your boyfriend. In addition, spend some time thinking about loving him selflessly. Try to love him without thinking about yourself or your needs and see if there is a change in you. You very well might lose the anxiety and stress and depression often associated with a breakup and you might find that he starts showing you a little more attention.




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