Dealing With Your Emotions After Your Breakup

By Tracy Thomas


Romance and relationships between a man and a woman often happens quite naturally. Two people meet each other, fall in love and happily go about their lives together. Beneath the surface, though, what actually happens? What causes a man to choose one woman over another? How can you use this information to make a man fall in love with you when it appears that he isn't interested? You are attracted to him and you have many things in common yet sometimes these feelings or emotions aren't returned. Why does this happen and what can you do to be the woman of his dreams?

You think about your ex all the time. Every morning you relive the pain and emotions of being alone. There's anger, sorrow, depression and a feeling of worthlessness that goes along with each and every breakup no matter what the circumstances might have been.

A man who sees a woman as somehow different than the other women around him will cause him to start to become attracted to her. If he is accustomed to women who chase him or flirt with him and he find a woman that doesn't flirt with him then she will feel different. Inversely, if he is used to women that ignore him or think of him as only smart or funny and he finds a woman that sees his other attributes then he will become attracted to her. She will appear different to him.

Dealing with your emotions over your breakup is very important. Regaining your feeling of self worth and your own self-confidence is necessary for you to function as a normal human being again. Ah, to feel normal again! Wouldn't that be awesome? It will happen for you. You need to know this no matter if you want to move past your relationship or if you hope to get back together with your ex. Getting rid of those feelings that harm us and replacing them with emotions that help you is a necessary step in your healing process and becoming the kind of person that you were before your breakup.

Yes, women can tell when a guy is just a little too into her and it freaks them out. Most of us are pretty damaged. All of us have some baggage and deep down inside our hearts we all see our own flaws. When someone makes a huge deal out of us it sends a message that there is something wrong with the other person. Women are even more in tune with this and without a word they can sense when you feel this way. Keep your head and keep your cool. Remember, she uses the toilet just like everyone else. She might be really cool but be sure that she is flawed in one way or another. In time, you will love those flaws too but for right now, she's not going to show you those flaws.

How can you make him feel at ease around you? Ask him some prying questions. Avoid the typical questions like about his hobbies or his work or what he likes to do to relax. Think about more probing questions and allow this line of questioning to lead you to who he really is. Comment about the things he talks about by agreeing that something that he tells you must have been difficult or fun depending upon the topic. Let him open up to you and express his feelings and emotions without judgement and you will find that he will feel drawn to you and want to be around you to talk and be himself.

While you might wish to be open with him and tell him everything about yourself, keep some of the more detailed portions of your life for later. Become a bit of a mystery to him and let him dig into your life. Let him struggle a little bit to get to know you. A woman that is a bit of a mystery to him will make him feel special when he does get to know you. Everybody loves a secret so keep a few secrets to yourself for him to find as your relationship progresses. It can be tempting to want to tell him about your entire life but it is more satisfying to man to find these things out himself, especially if there are few people that know these things about you.

Getting past the pain of your breakup isn't an easy process. There are going to be times when you feel like you are cured but those black thoughts and feelings of despair might be right around the corner for you. Understanding this and being patient with yourself is something to keep in mind. You can and will feel better one day soon and the pain from this breakup will be a distant memory.




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