A successful plan for reuniting with your girlfriend or wife doesn't have to be complex. The key to your success is staring you back in the face every morning when you wake up. It is you. You are the key to winning her back and you are the only thing standing in your way of achieving this goal. It's not what you say or do that is important. It is all in your attitude as a man that will melt her heart and make her fall in love with you again. Instead of trying to be perfect or make her happy, focus on yourself and how your ex views you as a man and you will begin to see changes.
A breakup can be a very emotional experience. If you have been emotional after your breakup it means that you really do care for your ex but behaving emotionally can be a turn off for the woman that you love. While your ex may have given you a list of reasons why she was leaving you, the real reason is something entirely different. The actual reason why she decided to break up with you has to do with how she views you as a man. If you have cried, begged or pleaded with her before, during or after the break up then it is her lack of respect for you as a man that led to your failed relationship. In order for you to change her perception of you she must never see this kind of behavior from you again. You might think that she will be moved by how much you love her but the opposite is true. A woman views these tactics or this kind of outpouring of emotion as a sign of weakness and manipulation. You must be strong and confident in all your dealings with your ex and things will begin to change.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Keeping your emotions in check is important. When was the last time you heard of a man that is highly respected crying or depressed over his broken heart? A real man takes the pain that life can sometimes dish out and turns that pain into a motivating factor in his life. From here on out, you are positive and optimistic about life. You have goals and dreams of what you want to do in life. You are filled with happiness and you ever look at your breakup as an opportunity to grow as a human being. When in the presence of your ex or anyone, for that matter, you are happy about life. If you are ever having a difficult time, control your emotions and tell yourself that you will process these emotions later when you're alone. If you continue to struggle, excuse yourself from the situation for a few minutes. Find a place where you can regain your composure and remind yourself that it is vitally important that you remain calm and positive in every situation. People are attracted to people who are strong and women, in particular, are attracted to men who are happy about life.
Control in a relationship or which partner wears the pants is always a struggle. Women often test a man and if you look back on events in your relationship you will agree that this is true. Now that your girlfriend or wife has left you, she may still attempt to test you or tell you what to do. Take control back and passively teach her that you are the man and that you'll make the decisions. She really doesn't want to make the decisions in the relationship. No woman does. It is all a test to see how strong you are as a man. The next time she attempts to exert her authority in your life by stating her opinion or actually telling you what you should do, make your own decision. For instance, let's say that you agree to meet and she suggests a time and place. Instead of agreeing, change the time and place to one more convenient for you. Even if you have to create an excuse, taking control in this small matter will help her to see that things have changed in your life. You're not trying to be difficult. Her suggestion simply does not suit you and you are making a decision.
Your self-confidence is the cornerstone of your success in any aspect of your life. Your ability to believe in yourself and what you can achieve will determine how hard you try and whether you give up on yourself. How can you expect a woman to love you if you don't have the same love and confidence in yourself? Your self-confidence or self-esteem is evident in how you handle yourself in all situations. Your ex will be able to see it in how you stand, your facial expression, the look in your eyes and your body language as a whole. If you are worried, scared, nervous or doubtful about anything, especially your ability to win your girlfriend or wife back, she will be able to see it in your body language. Work on your self-esteem every day. Work on your self-confidence the same way that you would work on any muscle group in your body. Spend some time telling yourself positive and optimistic things. Make a list of your redeeming qualities and stop comparing yourself to other men. In your world, you are the best and most important person. Without you, life ceases to exist in your world. Take care of yourself first so you can care for others such as the woman you love. Let that feeling be evident in how you walk, talk, stand, sit, smile, laugh and even chew bubble gum. Confidence and high self-esteem is very attractive to women and your ex is a woman so make it happen.
No matter how difficult it has been having your girlfriend or wife leave you, it is possible to reunite with them rather quickly. You will be tempted to go back to how you were before. You'll be tempted at times to doubt that your new attitude will make a difference. You will worry that it's all going to backfire on you but if you are strong, change will come. How she feels about you will change. Men are not kind and caring toward women that treat them poorly. It's a sign of weakness. In the future, once you do get back together with her, you can treat her kindly but don't overdo it. You can love her and still be the man that she needs you to be. Pick and choose when you will take her advice but don't allow her to treat you poorly. Don't allow her to lose respect for you again. She needs you to be the man in the relationship. When you're not in control, she will look for someone that will protect her and care for her. It's up to you whether that man is you or some other guy that is either already in her life or waiting to take control of the situation. Let that man be you and get her back before it's too late.
A breakup can be a very emotional experience. If you have been emotional after your breakup it means that you really do care for your ex but behaving emotionally can be a turn off for the woman that you love. While your ex may have given you a list of reasons why she was leaving you, the real reason is something entirely different. The actual reason why she decided to break up with you has to do with how she views you as a man. If you have cried, begged or pleaded with her before, during or after the break up then it is her lack of respect for you as a man that led to your failed relationship. In order for you to change her perception of you she must never see this kind of behavior from you again. You might think that she will be moved by how much you love her but the opposite is true. A woman views these tactics or this kind of outpouring of emotion as a sign of weakness and manipulation. You must be strong and confident in all your dealings with your ex and things will begin to change.
In life, attitude is everything. This is especially true with women. It is often said that in order to make a woman fall in love with a man he must have an attitude that shows that he is willing to walk away. For instance, if your girlfriend or wife is accustomed to yelling at you or treating you poorly and you simply stand there and take it, changing your attitude and being willing to literally walk away from her will change her perception of you as a man. Literally turn away from her, tell her that you have no desire to listen to her anymore and walk away. You will probably be shocked when she comes after you and apologizes. Don't worry if she doesn't do this immediately. Be sure that her attitude towards you will change though. She will have a renewed respect for you and how she thinks of you will begin to change if you are willing to stand up for yourself.
Keeping your emotions in check is important. When was the last time you heard of a man that is highly respected crying or depressed over his broken heart? A real man takes the pain that life can sometimes dish out and turns that pain into a motivating factor in his life. From here on out, you are positive and optimistic about life. You have goals and dreams of what you want to do in life. You are filled with happiness and you ever look at your breakup as an opportunity to grow as a human being. When in the presence of your ex or anyone, for that matter, you are happy about life. If you are ever having a difficult time, control your emotions and tell yourself that you will process these emotions later when you're alone. If you continue to struggle, excuse yourself from the situation for a few minutes. Find a place where you can regain your composure and remind yourself that it is vitally important that you remain calm and positive in every situation. People are attracted to people who are strong and women, in particular, are attracted to men who are happy about life.
Control in a relationship or which partner wears the pants is always a struggle. Women often test a man and if you look back on events in your relationship you will agree that this is true. Now that your girlfriend or wife has left you, she may still attempt to test you or tell you what to do. Take control back and passively teach her that you are the man and that you'll make the decisions. She really doesn't want to make the decisions in the relationship. No woman does. It is all a test to see how strong you are as a man. The next time she attempts to exert her authority in your life by stating her opinion or actually telling you what you should do, make your own decision. For instance, let's say that you agree to meet and she suggests a time and place. Instead of agreeing, change the time and place to one more convenient for you. Even if you have to create an excuse, taking control in this small matter will help her to see that things have changed in your life. You're not trying to be difficult. Her suggestion simply does not suit you and you are making a decision.
Your self-confidence is the cornerstone of your success in any aspect of your life. Your ability to believe in yourself and what you can achieve will determine how hard you try and whether you give up on yourself. How can you expect a woman to love you if you don't have the same love and confidence in yourself? Your self-confidence or self-esteem is evident in how you handle yourself in all situations. Your ex will be able to see it in how you stand, your facial expression, the look in your eyes and your body language as a whole. If you are worried, scared, nervous or doubtful about anything, especially your ability to win your girlfriend or wife back, she will be able to see it in your body language. Work on your self-esteem every day. Work on your self-confidence the same way that you would work on any muscle group in your body. Spend some time telling yourself positive and optimistic things. Make a list of your redeeming qualities and stop comparing yourself to other men. In your world, you are the best and most important person. Without you, life ceases to exist in your world. Take care of yourself first so you can care for others such as the woman you love. Let that feeling be evident in how you walk, talk, stand, sit, smile, laugh and even chew bubble gum. Confidence and high self-esteem is very attractive to women and your ex is a woman so make it happen.
No matter how difficult it has been having your girlfriend or wife leave you, it is possible to reunite with them rather quickly. You will be tempted to go back to how you were before. You'll be tempted at times to doubt that your new attitude will make a difference. You will worry that it's all going to backfire on you but if you are strong, change will come. How she feels about you will change. Men are not kind and caring toward women that treat them poorly. It's a sign of weakness. In the future, once you do get back together with her, you can treat her kindly but don't overdo it. You can love her and still be the man that she needs you to be. Pick and choose when you will take her advice but don't allow her to treat you poorly. Don't allow her to lose respect for you again. She needs you to be the man in the relationship. When you're not in control, she will look for someone that will protect her and care for her. It's up to you whether that man is you or some other guy that is either already in her life or waiting to take control of the situation. Let that man be you and get her back before it's too late.
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